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by Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino on October 23rd, 2011

Changing Your Life
By Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino

Many of you know, I am in Minnesota right now going on week two with my dad in ICU. His has kidney cancer (I don't want to capitalize it even...) and is in ICU due to a bleed from that surgery. He is fighting for his life, as is everyone in here. There is no such thing as being stable and being in ICU.

So, as I sit here in the ICU unit with my dad now for about 2 weeks and see the many people here in rooms, several deaths and my own father suffering, it really does scream "Life is short!!!" ~~ and definitely too short to be frustrated or miserable or to constantly wish for something and not see how to achieve it or understand how make lasting change."

Tell this to lady who had a reaction to the flu shot and wound up in ICU or the routine colononscopy gone sour or the lady who collapsed in the middle of the grocery store and I'll bet if they backed up time and had some things to do over, they might. Crap ( I said that politely.) happens and you never really know when it might happen to you. I was just talking to a nurse yesterday who has a friend with four small babies and the father was killed in a car accident about 4 months ago.

It got me thinking about January. January sort of annoys me because the media collectively decides to push "A New You" "Resolutions" and all of this stuff to help you have a better year ahead. Before January hits in just around 8 short weeks and you are bombarded with resolutions that fail and frustrations or endless lists of things you want to differently in your life, I thought I would chime in....

There is no magic to the date. I say start now. The minute you finish reading this, start living your life to the fullest. Don't hold back. You never know what might happen between now and that magical January day....

I am here today to help you chart a course to change your life forever. To help you stop wishing for it and start working for it. To help you learn how to break habits, learn new skills, get over the “how” and discover the “what”.

Someone wrote me hate mail that says "Well who are you to tell me to live my best life?"

Well hater guy, I'm just me and that should be plenty good enough :) Read me, don't read me, It's really up to you, but I can promise you that your hate mail won't discourage me from my mission to help people, including you :)

Seldom is there a mention of the mindset that must accompany life changes. Yes, you’re unhealthy, but WHY? Yes, you are in a sucky job, but WHY? And on and on. There is a lot of determination, consistency, motivation, lack of fear and many other things that mix into the change soup that must be eaten to bring you off the hamster wheels.

I will keep this real, simple and practical. I will not use endless cliches to live your life by. This is about authenticity. I am a real person with real problems and a real life. ( I just happen to like to think, write and blab about it. )

Wrapping Your Head Around It – You want to change

Life is a revolving door of endless choices and the thing of it is - not one single person can force you to change. Throw in a little fear into the mix and it could be a recipe for Hamsterology. You have to want to change. It is really just a flat out hard thing to do. Change. Change What? Change How? Change Why? Where? When?

Completely head-spinning and before you know it a few weeks or months have passed and guess what? Nothing has CHANGED! In some cases, things may have even gotten worse!

So my challenge to you is to write down 5 things you would like to change. Just do that for now. Grab a notebook or a journal and write down those 5 things you want to change.

What did you write?

All My Best,

About Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino
Elizabeth is the Founder and CEO of The Best Ever You Network. Elizabeth loves to improve her own life and those around her with small lasting changes.

ps- I am the queen of typos. If you see one just let me know. Our editor, Liz, is still wrapping her head around change and a medical check up.

Posted in Best Ever You Coaching    Tagged with Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, The Best Ever You Network, Life is short, make small lasting changes, Live Like a Fruit Fly, Gabe Berman, january resolutations, Hamsterology


Gail VanWart - October 23rd, 2011 at 9:01 AM
Elizabeth, Sorry to hear you are experiencing a difficult time in your life, a "time" everyone has to bear at some point along life's road. It is, however, as you said a good time to realize we all have an expiration date and should not put off the things we hope to accomplish before we reach our "best by" date. That's why I am finally doing it, publishing a collection of my poems I've composed over the years and working on my first memoir (of about four I plan to write). I, too, can see that life is short, and I need to do these things before it is too late. Stay strong, stay focused. My thoughts are with you.
Mike - October 23rd, 2011 at 9:26 AM
It takes an amazing person to encourage others with words of hope, when they themselves are in a rough patch. Your love is inspiring, and your words full of wisdom. God bless you, and know that your strength lies not in you, but the one who created the universe and who is unshakeable. My prayers are with you. There are many more people who need to hear what you have to say, than those who don't. You are blessed if you have helped just one person, so ignore the haters, and the ignorant.
km - October 23rd, 2011 at 12:30 PM
"The moment that we realize that time is just an illusion, we would be able to let go and enjoy the Now" I repeat this reflection to myself all the time. For me, living the Now, starts the minute that I abandon the plan. There is no way at least for me to cover all the possibilities, I might have an idea, but in reality, nothing goes according to plan and when it did, it was because I felt safe in my comfort zone. Life is about movement, constant movement. However, those are reflections based on my experiences which might be different for others. Every person is a unique soul that it is why I think you can tell your story but they decide the learning they get. The only thing that I might write in a journal would be “let go”
Many blessings to you and about your father, kiss his forehead, I am pretty sure he will smile
Liz - October 23rd, 2011 at 6:51 PM
Consider yourself "edited"...no down time for me. And actually, that is the first thing I need to change :) My hamster wheel has that consistent squeak of over-use. It needs a destination, and my movement needs some ceasing! There are more things besides that, but of those 5 things, that alone will spur on the other 4...

In the meantime, these folks are right - that "hater" email, it needs to be edited right off your shoulder. Don't let it sit there (no matter what you say, it's going to nibble a little at your day - don't give it that power). And enjoy the small miracles that are finding their way into your day as your dad recovers. Because, that's the miracle - he is recovering. No matter what, no matter how endless the last 2 weeks have been, that is not what was expected, and you've been given a gift. It may be in a brown paper bag instead of a pretty bow, but the end result is more time with him. He was able to see grandkids yesterday and tell him he loved them. That was awesome. That expiration date has been extended, and that is the miracle of what has been happening.

Hang in there, Elizabeth, and know that your being there is giving him hope and power. And lots of us are in the background, sending positive thoughts to help you while you and your family bolster his spirits and health. It's not easy, but not all gifts are pretty :) Good luck, and good thoughts - Liz
Tomeka Napper - October 24th, 2011 at 2:16 PM
Thank you for this inspiring blog. Lot of light and love to your dad and your family.
Dr .G - October 24th, 2011 at 4:49 PM
Well put. And I'm so glad your Dad is beating the odds. Keep at it, and keep encouraging us!

So many of my patients have what ifs.
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